Responses to my last post reinforced for me the idea that illustrating the principles of wait time management with examples from everyday life may be a powerful way to engage people in tackling similar problems in health care.
My experience in an airline's check-in queue led me to conclude that organizations sometimes make the conscious choice to give their clients bad experiences. The words that an organization's leaders and employees choose when communicating with clients can reinforce this dysfunction. When a clerk tells a customer, We can't do that, “can't” suggests the customer's request is a physical impossibility, something not only unreasonable, but fantastical.
When the response is We don't do that, the clerk retreats behind the corporate mantle. What you're asking is possible, but it's not part of our culture.
What's the honest phrase? Which words acknowledge the conscious choices service providers make? We won't do that. Or, even better, I won't do that. My organization chooses not to provide the service you're requesting. (Of course, this may be a completely reasonable statement for an employee to make, i.e., don't pull up to the Tim Horton's drive-through window and demand an oil change). Won't makes the individual and organization take responsibility for their action/inaction.
Here's my idea for a (snarky) T-shirt logo, suitable to be worn anytime you're at risk of receiving poor service:
Won't
At least be honest with me!